I know that I’m late. Thanksgiving was 3 days ago. Clearly I didn’t get the memo on punctuality! But to be honest with you I actually was not going to write a thanksgiving post. I figured what’s the point? They’re not big on that here in the UK so I thought I’d leave it up to my fellow American counterparts to acknowledge the feeling that is ‘gratitude’. But that was until my epiphany Friday night!
As I lay my head to rest, preparing to empty my mind of the day’s events and drift off into Never Never Land I realized that I had a lot of positive things happen to me this past week that I should really be grateful for. I don’t usually go to bed thinking about all of the good things that have happened to me on a daily or weekly basis; I don’t even keep a gratitude journal. But reading through tons of Thanksgiving blog posts on Huffington Post (including Oprah’s) and elsewhere in the blogosphere, had me thinking a lot about what I had to be grateful for at this point in my life. Furthermore, since this blog is indeed intended to be the hub of all things lush and luminous, I tapped myself on the head for almost missing a great opportunity to share with you guys the things that have made my life positively jolly this past week. So here we go…
1) Sent An Email To My Ex (Fling)
‘What? Why would you do that?!’ you may ask. Well you see, he and I had a very very close bond for about a year. He was basically the male version of myself. We probably would have been better off as best friends but life didn’t have it that way. Our chemistry and curiosity got the better of us, and we got involved. Long story short, earlier this year, February as a matter of fact, I decided to drift away from him rather suddenly. I did so because I realized that he and I would have never worked out, regardless of how connected we seemed to be. Want to know how I drifted away from him? There was no ‘bye’, or ‘see ya later’…there was no explanation…no civilized chat over a cup of coffee. Ashamedly, the only strategy I knew…the safest but most hurtful strategy…was to turn our daily chats into weekly chats and then our weekly chats into monthly chats until we chatted no more. I simply just stopped talking to him. It was a deplorable way to deal with the situation, I know. But I really didn’t know any better. For months I regretted the silly way I ended things but was not brave enough to say something. That was until maybe 3 months ago when I finally understood what it meant to act in spite of fear. So last Saturday, 8 days ago, I finally sent him that long-awaited apology explaining how and why I stopped speaking to him, and put it out there that I hoped he’d forgive me for it one day (holding grudges is a big (useless) part of his personality). My heart was palpitating in my chest whilst I typed away; I hadn’t spoken to him in so long. I said a quick prayer before I even pressed ‘Send’…that’s how anxious I was. Till today he hasn’t responded, but you know what, I’m very okay with that. So long as he’s happy and he’s living life to the fullest I’ve got nothing to complain about.
So what am I grateful for? – The experiences that I shared with him. The strength to do something thing that scared me. Being the ‘bigger person’. Courage to press forward in spite of fear. The ability to move on with peace of mind.
2) I Saw My Beau Twice This Week
Some of you might scoff at this…twice in one week what’s so great about that?!…Well let me tell ya! In a relationship like mine where you sometimes go 3 weeks without seeing your significant other, twice in one week is like a bonus! The first day was Tuesday when we had a nice little munch at Pizza Hut and then went to the cinema to see the climax of the Twilight trilogy (How bad ass was Bella?!…how ‘sexually appealing’ was Edward? :D). That date was very far from gourmet, but as they say, it’s the little things that count. I was just so happy to be in his presence. We live an hour apart and we’re both busy making a living in our own ways so it’s sometimes really difficult to cross paths often. But I live for challenges…triumphs always come after the trials, and this one is worth it. The second encounter I had with my significant other, however, was totally spontaneous. Friday, there I was seated in one of the bright red buses the UK is very famous for, on my way to work. At one of the bus’ stops, I stared blankly into space as new passengers stomped onto the bus, eager to get out of the cold, and to my utter shock and surprise he was one of those stomping souls. I was really caught off-guard. We didn’t talk about this…we didn’t plan…what was he doing here?! As he sat next to me he confessed that since he was in the area he wanted to surprise me, so he rushed to the bus stop hoping to get the same bus I was on. The effort that he put into seeing me made my night. He didn’t have to do that. This surprise had me grinning from ear to ear like a fool, and as you would imagine, work was exceptionally great too.
So what am I grateful for? – To love and be loved in return. The little things. The absences – they make every moment we see each other precious. Happiness. Security. Comfort.
3) I’m Officially On Holiday For Christmas (Trinidad Here I Come!).
Since I’ve gotten my new job, it’s been a struggle to get my holiday leave for Christmas. For a month I’d been going from manager to manager in order to get my vacation sorted but nothing seemed to be happening. Last Monday, to my dismay, I realized that I would have to cut my holiday short by a week in order to have it approved according to company policy. This revelation opened a hugely unwanted Pandora’s box where I then had to change my flight (that was booked since the BEGINNING of this year) to even begin to think about leaving the country. The agency I booked with kept coughing up all of these high prices, the worst of them being £800 (British Airways needs to sort themselves out)! It got to the point where I wasn’t even sure if I should go anymore. I was not prepared to practically give away £800 for 3 weeks in the sun. I was ready to give up and call it a day. But on Wednesday, my glorious day off, I was encouraged (forced) to go into work and speak to a ‘Big Boss’. I reluctantly did this, but once I got there and found the person with rank, I was able to fully explain my situation to a lovely, very understanding woman I hadn’t yet met. The following day, I sent her a follow-up email explaining my situation once again and practically pleaded with her to approve my vacation. And by Friday morning I received a confirmatory email stating that my suggested travel dates were confirmed. Yay!! Relief flooded through me as I got on the phone with my travel agency immediately and proceeded to change my flight before British Airways dreamed up any other ridiculous price hike. And the best thing was that I didn’t have to pay anywhere near £800 for my new dates.
So what am i grateful for? – Not giving up – the victory was right around the corner. Understanding, friendly bosses. Money. Family Holidays. Trinidad & Tobago – The place I call home.
4) I’m Halfway To My UK Drivers License
On Thursday, the day after my unexpected trip into work to demand beg on my knees that my holidays be given to me, I took my driving theory test. I had been planning and preparing for it months before. I had initially booked to take it in October, only to realize on the said same day I was booked to take the test that I couldn’t find the documentation that I needed. That day, I had to miss my test (and lose money). So annoying! A week later, however, I was ready to book again. At that point I had 2.5 weeks left to re- prepare. But being the excellent procrastinator that I am, I didn’t start revising for my test properly until Monday morning. The last-minuteness of it all caused me to go to bed exhausted, in the wee hours of the morning for 3 consecutive days. I thought to myself, ‘I cannot go through this again’. So when Thursday came I was armed and ready to spurt out as much information as was needed to pass the test. I got to the centre 5 mins late (I’m terrible with understanding maps and directions), but they allowed me to take the test anyway (kind souls). It was quite tricky, the test. There were some questions I had to return to more than twice just to make sure I had chosen the right answer. You could never be 100% sure with these things. So once I left the test room I braced myself for the official letter that stated whether I was successful or a total failure. Once that letter was placed in my hands, I quickly skimmed through the first line. The first line is all you really need to read to know where the rest of the letter would be going isn’t it? In case I failed I wanted to know quickly. But to my supreme joy, the first word on the first line was ‘Congratulations’! Talk about relief! I didn’t read the rest of the letter. I didn’t care about the rest of the letter. The point was that I had passed my test and the hard part was over. I packed that letter neatly into my handbag and walked home on air, anxious to waste the rest of my night on Tumblr. Now all I need to do is get my driving practical in the bag! But that’s another task for another day.
So what am i grateful for? – A fully functioning brain. The feeling of success. Progression. Accomplished goals. Google Maps.
So what do you have to be thankful for this week…this month…this year?
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